Are there specific steps or little tips for moving on from an emotionally abusive relationship?
The first step is to admit that you were abused. But do not accept it was your fault or you deserved the abuse.
Those are lies the abuser wanted you to believe. Second, find family or friends to talk to. Make sure they are people you can trust. Best to have someone who was previously abused, but not necessary. Me, I cried plenty of tears for nearly three months, just getting over the abuse. It has been nearly one year since I have been out and you would never guess I am the same person I was one year ago!!!! You need to re-establish your self confidence and self esteem. Talk, talk, talk. I really got through with the love of Jesus with me always.
There is no 12-steps program for codependence. Decoupling from the abuser is difficult to achieve if you are a codependent - and doubly difficult without professional help.